Breakups can be abrupt and drastic changes in someone’s life. The feelings can be the same as if you had experienced a death of someone close and they can take just as much time to get over. Breaking up can be very painful. Getting over a breakup, moving on after your ex breaks your heart - these are challenges. There are some ways to make it a little less painful…but be warned: it is still painful.
- Allow yourself to accept that the relationship is over. At times, people can be in denial and avoid facing this fact.
- Stop punishing yourself for what happened, and let go of all of your negative feelings. Write a letter detailing your negative feelings and burn it afterward. Allow yourself to grieve the relationship you lost.
- Realize you cannot control such factors in your life, then do some introspective soul-searching to figure out what you have learned through the process of the breakup. Make a list of all the lessons you have learned and find ways to apply them to a new life.
- Let go of regrets and heartbreak and anything that wears you down. Get rid of all the negative influences in your old life and start fresh.
- Learn to smile, and find new ways to occupy your time. Develop new habits to replace the time you spent grieving over this past relationship.
- Keep a journal and list in it happy moments with the person you loved—in time, the separation will become less painful.
- Be patient with the process, as it takes time to heal a broken heart. Do not expect quick and easy solutions.
- Try to keep a distance between you and the person you love by avoiding contact and phone calls.
- Do not wallow in the breakup. This could prolong the time it takes to get over your ex.
